Friday, June 24, 2011

It's My Relationship

I realized I have never really updated the situation about what has happened with Darren and me concerning our relationship being interfaith. Darren and I have talked about this. I asked him to be completely honest with me. Then I asked if he was 100% ok with me being Catholic. Not only did he say yes, but he said he prefers the interfaith relationship. We both have been raised in our faiths our whole lives, and never really had a say in what we're to believe in.
That being said, I have looked at other churches when I was in high school because I was unsure of what I really believed in. I looked at so many, learning more and more about each religion. What made me stay in the Catholic Church is because whenever I went to Mass, I felt this feeling in my chest. It was as if the Holy Spirit came inside me and filled me up. That is how I knew that this is where I'm supposed to be.
Back to what I was saying, both Darren and I like the interfaith relationship. It allows us to be more respectful of the other's faith while at the same time, being true to our own. Also, we like the fact of allowing our future children to choose what they want to believe. Like I said, he and I never really had much of a choice. Personally, I really don't care what religion they follow, just as long as they are good people, happy, and contribute to society in a positive way.
I'm sure some are wondering, "How are you going to make it work?" This is something that we talk about a lot. We both want to attend church together, and there are several ways to do so. One option is to attend each church every other week. Another way is with the fact that Mass is also served on Saturday evenings, but of course that may not always happen. We haven't gotten it completely down, but we're working on it. We also plan on compromising when it comes to certain holidays. With my religion, we have some days that are holy days of obligation, in which we must attend Mass. The two main ones are Christmas Eve and Easter. Another big day is Ash Wednesday (although it is not a holy day of obligation). He agrees that we will attend Mass on these days (plus, the Christmas Eve Mass is always so beautiful; I can't imagine not attending it). With him, there isn't really a time that going to church is absolutely necessary (other that a typical Sunday), but he is fine with it.
I can't stress this enough, but I am NOT preventing him from having an eternal marriage. It is HIS choice to be with me. If he wanted it so badly, he would be with a Mormon girl as we speak. I would not be writing this right now. Sure, he and I will still be friends, but that would be it. He wouldn't consider me anymore than that. But that is not the case. He wants to be with me. He's known since we were just friends that I'm Catholic just like I've known that he's Mormon. I may have pursued the relationship, but he didn't have to say yes. He didn't have to choose me. But he did. Looking into his eyes, I can see that he loves me and wants to be with me. We both like how things are with us, and that is all that matters. It's our relationship. The only other person in it is God. Other than that, it's really no one else's place to say what is right and wrong with it. I can understand if it's an abusive relationship, but it isn't. I don't tell you how your relationship should be, so please don't tell me how mine should be.

1 comment:

  1. Leah - I love you :) As long as you two are happy and are satisfied and secure in your decisions as a couple and GOD is happy, that's all that matters :)

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